Please forgive my childishness, but.... I GOT MY FIRST BLOG FOLLOWER! I just wanted to yell that.
I find Aunt Judy had listed herself as a follower at the end of a week where work rocked. I entered the weekend on three really high notes. [The third was San Diego Mike d' arriving to spend the weekend hanging out with me.]
Aunt Judy is this fascinating woman who is a member of my ex-partner Steve's family. At a wedding a few years ago, about 6 years into Steve's and my relationship, I asked Aunt Judy where she sat in the family tree. She told me the story of two sisters and how they were very close growing up. So close, that when they married and started having children [she being one], the families just melded together in a very natural progression of the love these women felt for each other. The families were together on the weekends, at weddings, at picnics, at funerals, on vacations.... they always hung out. This caused cousins to be more like brothers and sisters. So much so in fact, that as they got older and started having children, those family units kept the tradition of hang out together, it got difficult to remember who was aunt / uncle and cousin / first cousin, etc. So someone came up with the rule, If the person is older than you, they are your aunt / uncle. If the person is younger than you they are your cousin. Thus, Judy, who is no blood relation to me and is not an aunt to my former partner, is, however, our Aunt Judy.
My interactions with Aunt Judy are always random. Neither of us attend every Reddell family event, but we go often enough. [The Reddells also have a tradition that if a family member decides to divorce a spouse it does not mean the family decides to divorce that person. There are three "ex's" that attend the family parties and get together. I have been blessed to be one of them.] I also get the random Facebook message from Aunt Judy regarding a post here or there that I have placed or linked. Once she called me with questions about an ill family member. Aunt Judy is like a Surprise Lily in the spring. You always smile when you see them, but you just never know when that will be.
I find Aunt Judy had listed herself as a follower at the end of a week where work rocked. I entered the weekend on three really high notes. [The third was San Diego Mike d' arriving to spend the weekend hanging out with me.]
Aunt Judy is this fascinating woman who is a member of my ex-partner Steve's family. At a wedding a few years ago, about 6 years into Steve's and my relationship, I asked Aunt Judy where she sat in the family tree. She told me the story of two sisters and how they were very close growing up. So close, that when they married and started having children [she being one], the families just melded together in a very natural progression of the love these women felt for each other. The families were together on the weekends, at weddings, at picnics, at funerals, on vacations.... they always hung out. This caused cousins to be more like brothers and sisters. So much so in fact, that as they got older and started having children, those family units kept the tradition of hang out together, it got difficult to remember who was aunt / uncle and cousin / first cousin, etc. So someone came up with the rule, If the person is older than you, they are your aunt / uncle. If the person is younger than you they are your cousin. Thus, Judy, who is no blood relation to me and is not an aunt to my former partner, is, however, our Aunt Judy.
My interactions with Aunt Judy are always random. Neither of us attend every Reddell family event, but we go often enough. [The Reddells also have a tradition that if a family member decides to divorce a spouse it does not mean the family decides to divorce that person. There are three "ex's" that attend the family parties and get together. I have been blessed to be one of them.] I also get the random Facebook message from Aunt Judy regarding a post here or there that I have placed or linked. Once she called me with questions about an ill family member. Aunt Judy is like a Surprise Lily in the spring. You always smile when you see them, but you just never know when that will be.
Three days of sunshine and warm nights in San Francisco, an Aunt Judy that reminds me that scripts in relationships change, but it doesn't mean you will loose the love, being on the top of my game at work, and a friend visiting from out of town.... what a great weekend/month/year/life.
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